Inferiority and superiority complexes are both psychological phenomenon with long-lasting feelings of unworthiness and noteworthiness which resulted from early lack of social adaptation and emotional adjustment. These feelings cannot be detected during the early stage but are usually apparent in one’s character, gestures, posture and thinking.
In fact, superiority complex is a psychological defense mechanism of a person who wants to be exceptional just to counter or conceal his or her feelings of inferiority.
It is one of the ways in which a person with an inferiority complex may use as an escape from a dilemma by considering himself or herself as superior even if he or she is not.
Superiority complex is visible in the attitude, character and the opinion of a person about himself/herself. It is misled by haughtiness, arrogance, pride, zest, arrogance, bragging, overbearing behavior, a proneness for hunting mistakes and faults in others and many more.
On the contrary, inferiority complex is a lack of self-worth and a feeling of uncertainty, for not measuring up to standards. It is often subconscious but is developed through a combination of genetic personality characteristics and personal experiences. It occurs when the feelings of inferiority are accentuated in the individual through discouragement or failure. Those who are at risk for developing a complex include people who show signs of low self-esteem or self-worth, have low socioeconomic status, or have a history of depression symptoms.
When an inferiority complex is in full effect, it affects the performance of the individual as well as impact to the individual’s self-esteem. Unconscious psychological and emotional processes can disturb the child’s cognitive learning, and negatively charged feeling-toned memory associations can thwart the learning process.
It dominates the psychical life and is characterized by the feeling of imperfection and lack of achievement in reaching personal goals. The inferiority feeling is only normal when people face extreme life situations. This behavior is caused by the lack of self-esteem and belief in his/her own forces. The inferiority complex causes shyness, pessimism, anxiety or lack of communication.
Emotional manifestations like rage, revenge drive, sorrow, enthusiasm, manifested in inadequate situations, the incapacity of listening or looking into the eyes of someone else, changing the topic of conversation towards his/her own person, are all signs of an inferiority complex evolving towards a superiority complex.
These sentiments are triggered by a lack of social communication or mistakes that the parents made out of love for their kids. Strange as it might sound, the inferiority tendency can be used in a positive way. It can motivate us to solve problems and issues. The superiority bias does not affect those around us; just maintains our high self-esteem.
If our kids are suffering this type of complicated behavior, it is our responsibility as parents, to help them. We are their only hope to understand them. We cannot rely on other people. We cannot even trust the teachers of our kids because they often misjudge this behavior as offensive.
But if we constantly criticize our kids for not living our standards, it won’t help them. Even if we do everything for them; it won’t resolve the problem; rather we let them develop the inability to overcome the problems of life without our assistance.
So, if we want our kids to get rid of inferiority complex, we need to address the real problem and we will be on the right track in building their self-confidence.